My superpower is helping women become the best version of themselves while pursuing the kind of life they actually want.... one with abundant freedom, joy, and peace.
what is ärdər ?
ärdər is the phonetic spelling of the word ardor, used to “describe feelings of enthusiasm and passion.”
I know this message is lengthy, but bare with me.
I want to thank you for sharing space, time, and love with me. Upon losing my dad at the start of 2022, I was presented with many uncharted and complex emotions that shook my world. Still, my family, friends, and this fierce community have continued to fortify me in my breaking and rebuilding.
I’m not sure many of you know how Gladiate Beautifully came to be. Gladiate Beautifully was birthed during a season in my life when I believed, with conviction, that my resilience alone was my strength. I was experiencing insurmountable pain in a place I called home. I believed that my strength alone would ground me to face every challenge and that my blood, sweat, and tears would be my redemption. Soon I would learn that it wouldn’t ever be enough. I can attest that “gladiating beautifully” served me right and well in the environment where and when it had to. I do believe that in many areas of our lives, we find that playing the part gets us through the bullshit. But thankfully, that chapter of my life is over. It’s no longer my belief that I must put on a pretty face to exist. It’s no longer my belief that I must have it all together to let people in. My now truth is that my success (and failures) hinge on my authenticity. If “authentic” means I’m feeling bomb as f*ck on Monday and in absolute shambles by Tuesday, so be it.
I’m learning to lean in. I’m learning to ask for support. I’m naming the things that I need with fervor and clarity. I believe that I alone am enough, and when I fight, when I gladiate, it doesn’t have to be picture-perfect. The fight is dirty. The fight is lonely. The fight is gritty. That is our truth and has been our plight for generations.
“Ardor is an often restless or transitory warmth of feeling.”
Weeks before the Gladiate Beautifully Retreat, I sat alone and calculated how much it would cost to refund everyone’s tickets and cancel the event. To be real with you, I’d been considering quitting Gladiate Beautifully since October of last year. After the first conference, I lost my inspiration, alignment, and motivation. Now hitting this wall for the third time, I couldn’t shake the nudge that a transition was necessary. Even if it called for a hiatus, this community deserved focus and intention. After sitting with this feeling for some time, I reassuringly came across the word ardor. This is it.
Ardor, in a word, surpassed my ability to articulate where I’ve been and how I want to move forward to build something sustainable and expansive.
This year was plentiful. I made deep connections. Gladiate Beautifully gifted me with grace, self-permission, and perspective. My intention for 2023 is to mobilize the ärdər community with intense programming grounded in focus and care. I feel justified, seen, and reminded. I found purpose, again. I discovered comfort and validation in my unraveling. I recouped momentous inspiration in the audacious city that is Paris. Excitement for what is to come is such an understatement. I know you'll embrace ärdər with all the more voracity you did for Gladiate Beautifully.
Thank you for continuing this journey with me; I’m so ready to share all that is ärdər with you very, very soon. Loving you all so very much.
Straight talk, strong drinks, short emails, data, and cutting out the 'meh' to make room for the very best.
Small talk (because it lacks intention, mean women, Pepsi (Coke is superior), societal normals.
Guesting on podcasts, on coaching cals with my delightful clients, making dinner, salsa dancing.
Morning affirmations, cuddles with my adorable children + sexy husband, avo toast, barre class, and good skincare (Drunk Elephant, what!)
My Favorite Things
Traveling — especially to cute cafes because of my love of cafe's in Paris!
My happy place!
The Beach! It's my zone of serenity where all of my best ideas happen.
Accessorizing. I'm that girl with 47 pairs of earrings and a closet of full of shoes. Hey, we all have our passions in life.
Where I stand on the super important stuff... Agree / disagree?